I had started to write a blog on this a few weeks ago and never got around to completing it.. Well, I’m not surprised that I can’t even find the draft now! I must have accidentally deleted it. We know who comes to kill steal and destroy right and why he does that! So here I go again yet with more excitement.
Having been in the missions field working one on one with people along with the gift of discernment and prophetic intercession, I have actually learnt a lot and I also know that I have a lot more to learn too!
The secular concept of confidentiality is treasured amidst Christians too – and personally I believe yes we use wisdom and discernment, but I believe this very concept is also a catalyst or cover up for a lot of issues that should be exposed instead.
First of all, as followers of Christ, I believe God is calling us to be the LIGHT of the world.. I believe that light cannot be hidden, it lays itself bare.. If it covers itself then it’s no longer light but it instead becomes the opposite – namely, darkness. Being the light means being transparent.. we will have no shame in transparency as we know who we are in Christ. We live to please God and not people. Our transparency, our brokenness, our testimonies of the passing of our tests, our messes that become messages – these are the very things that others see and get hope from.. the hope that they too can come out of their issues victoriously by clinging to God. Yes our only hope is Jesus.. and they will know that when we stand triumphantly and with joy in HIM.. in confidence as we know who we are, how special we are because of Him and that is what defines us – not our experiences, not our mistakes, not our failures!
Secondly, light exposes what is in the dark. You can’t be a light and not shove the darkness away.. Light automatically dispels darkness…It doesn’t have to go looking for it, it happens – yes God gives revelation.. Jesus asks us to speak the truth yet He makes it clear how to speak the truth – IN LOVE.
God also calls us to GENTLY RESTORE those who have BEEN CAUGHT in sin.. not those we assume are in sin.. but those who have been caught in it.. and it’s clear how He wants us to restore – GENTLY… not forcefully, not judgmentally but gently. We will indeed do that if we have seen God’s love and grace and mercy in our lives.. If we treasure what He has done for us, wouldn’t we automatically extend it to others.
Jesus was tender with those who had BROKEN and CONTRITE hearts yet He rebuked in public those who were self righteous, religious, legalistic. He didn’t hesitate to clearly tell them off – these were the leaders of the time too!
Jesus came to fulfill the law and in fulfilling it, He replaced it by LOVE, summarising all the law and commandments and whatnot into TWO greatest commandments… yes it was all about LOVE.
Love doesn’t mean being a door mat.. love doesn’t mean just turning a blind eye while people continue in their way of sin.. Parents who don’t discipline their own children are spoiling them, not loving them! Paul leaves with parents a thought to ponder on:
“If you are not disciplined – and everyone undergoes discipline – then you are not legitimate, not true sons and daughters at all” = Hebrews 12:8
Discipline is a very aspect of love – we will speak the truth in love to those we love as we don’t want harm to come upon them.. We can’t force them to follow our advise, but we can speak up as long as we are leaning on God’s wisdom and discernment to do so and not with a judgmental or condemning attitude. Our words may be sweet and oozing of ‘love’, but God sees the motives and the reasoning of the heart…
If we are light, then light will naturally expose the darkness. We love the sinner but not the sin. God calls us to stand up for justice, to seek His righteousness and stand against oppression..
Have nothing to do with the fruitless deeds of darkness, but rather expose them – Ephesians 5:11
Confidentiality (along with the religious self righteousness of ‘not gossiping’) is often a way we are SAFE GUARDING those who are the perpetrators and in the process we are THROWING the victims, the vulnerable people to the WOLVES. This reminds me of the prophecy God gave through Ezekiel in Chapter 34.
Bearing in mind what we discussed above – IN LOVE (ie with a heart that sees this is the way to help them) and to GENTLY RESTORE them (the ones who make others victims) and in turn also to stand against oppression and bearing in mind God sees our hearts motives, then, we consider the following:
If we were to expose the abuser, the molester, the murderer, the one driven by selfish ambition who would stampede everyone along the way, the liar, the wicked, etc etc….. will they be able to continue on their pattern of sin, digging their graves deeper and also victimising and hurting many many more? How does the Bible ask us to respond to people who refuse to acknowledge their faults? Yes there are some who acknowledge with crocodile tears. We need to ask God for wisdom to discern between such people and those who are sincerely repentant and persevering to deepen their relationship with God and make a U turn in life even if they stumble.
Matthew 18:19-24 clearly tells us to take WITNESSES if someone doesn’t admit their wrongdoings.. Of course many of us SIN as we don’t want to go along as witnesses even though Jesus clearly tells us to do so. We cop out saying “let them sort out their own problems”. Paul also speaks of our role in conflict resolution:
do you not know that the Lord’s people will judge the world? And if you are to judge the world, are you not competent to judge trivial cases? … Is it possible that there is nobody among you wise enough to judge a dispute between believers? – 1 Corinthians 6:2-6
Scriptures also tell us to confess our sins to one another and that we will be healed.. Whatever is hidden in us and kept within will fester, manifesting itself in different negative forms whether it be psychosomatic illnesses or anger or addictions etc. When we confess, we are being the light, bringing out any darkness hidden within us, and we will be ‘healed’ to be the light!
If we know we are the light, we will have no hesitation in being transparent as we believe that:
The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it. – John 1:5
Everyone who does evil hates the light, and will not come into the light for fear that their deeds will be exposed. But whoever lives by the truth comes into the light, so that it may be seen plainly that what they have done has been done in the sight of God. – John 3:20-21