Ok, I admit it, there is one thing I indulge in (not a need) despite the life of faith – and that is colouring my hair. It’s too costly to do it at a salon so at least I compensate with D.I.Y.!!
However, doing it myself does get a bit clumsy to ensure the roots get covered properly. When it comes to the application, I find it totally cumbersome to apply it with gloves on so one is left free. Until that hand is washed, I need to be ultra careful and still nonetheless I do end up touching something and staining that! It’s such a relief when the application is over and I can dash to the washroom and wash everything that got cross-COLOURED!!!
It’s impossible for one clean hand to remove clean when it comes in contact with a dirty hand. The clean hand is not going to make the dirty hand clean but rather the other way round! Some of the stain gets reduced from the dirty hand as it is transferred to the clean hand.. and the clean hand takes it upon itself.
What does it mean then for a believer to partner with a non-believer may it be for dating, marriage or even business relationships?
Many ‘Christian’ singles fall in love with a non Christian. Then they decide to embark on ‘missionary dating’ in the hopes and confidence of ‘converting’ the other person to the faith. I find it amazing as to how many Christians would advise singles to take this approach. First of all, Christianity is not a religion… it’s a relationship with God and with others. It is not possible to ‘convert’ someone as relationships cannot be forced, not sincere relationships anyway. There may be a few exceptions, but even if the non Christian does embrace Christ in the process, what was the motive behind the decision? Was it truly for God or was it the means to gaining the person they want? There are so many real life stories of one partner becoming a Christian and then not long into the marriage they revert to their faiths and demand the spouse and kids to follow their way. It could be due to family pressure too but for family pressure to kick in and the person to falter, it shows the foundation wasn’t obviously steady.
Secondly, if Solomon despite all his wisdom was led astray by his unbelieving wives, what hope does that leave for the rest of us?
I haven’t used the term ‘believer’ above, as someone who believes will surely want to please God in their every choice of life. Someone who believes in God will act in accordance to their belief, not their fleshly desires.
The values and ethics of a true believer will contradict with the values and ethics of a non believer. Through the process – whether dating or in a relationship or business partnership – the unclean vessels will for sure contaminate the clean vessel.
Do not be yoked together( to yoke up differently, that is, (figuratively) to associate discordantly: – unequally yoke together with) with unbelievers.
For what do righteousness (equity (of character or act); specifically (Christian) justification: – righteousness) and wickedness (illegality, that is, violation of law or (generally) wickedness: – iniquity, X transgress (-ion of) the law, unrighteousness) have in common?
Or what fellowship (participation, that is, intercourse: – fellowship) can light have with darkness?
… What agreement is there between the temple of God and idols? For we are the temple of the living God.
As God has said: “I will live with them and walk among them, and I will be their God, and they will be my people.
Therefore come out from them and be separate (to set off by boundary, that is, (figuratively) limit), says the Lord. Touch no unclean thing, and I will receive you.
I will be a Father to you, and you will be my sons and daughters, says the Lord Almighty” -2 Corinthians 6:14-18
Can light and darkness even co-exist? The purpose of light is totally lost if it did! Light will dispel darkness. We are called to be the light of the world.. So how then would it be possible for believers to get into a partnership with a non believer? It would be like two people trying to grab hold of the steering wheel.. the wheels will be constantly in conflict as to which direction to go – and it’s quite likely that it would end up going into circles making the people go dizzy ending in a crash! The one who is justified by Christ Jesus would focus on seeking God’s Kingdom (that’s what a true believer – not one who calls himself a believer – would do!) whereas the unrighteous would be focused on feeding the flesh walking in the ways of the world.
How can we who are the temple of God become one with a place where, instead of God, is filled with things that are opposed to God? Idols do not have life… God is living.. Will those who are alive be amidst those who are dead? If we truly loved God, would we make such a decision in the first place?
We love one another whether believers or unbelievers. In fact everyone whether believers or unbelievers have been created by God, in His image and likeness for God. The difference is the choice to follow Him or not… And when we commit our lives to follow Him, we cannot be an intimate part with those who don’t as our values / choices will contradict one another.. We can remain friends and we should.. the difference lies on the level of the relationship, especially marriage.
When two become one flesh, they become one. Each other rubs onto each other… Have you noticed certain habits that couples share after marriage which wasn’t the case before? Well, amidst friendships certain mannerisms rub off onto each other so imagine a married couple who spend a good part of their lives with each other? How can the unclean hands not taint the clean hands? How can the clean hands remain clean and not absorb the filthiness of the unclean hands? Is it possible?
God calls us to separate ourselves from unclean things… to place a line, a boundary.. and to not touch them – not to be influenced in ways of the world or the enemy enticing away from the ways of God. He says then He will be a Father to us, He will receive us as His sons and daughters.
- Where do you stand today?
- Is the Holy Spirit quickening some situation or bringing a person into your heart right now? Ask God what the next steps should be?
- Allow God to search all your relationships friendships etc.. and put the balance, the boundary back in the right places… so that you can be received by Him..