When a child does something wrong and it’s amusing, people often chuckle at it and repeat it to others in the presence of the child. The child then mis-interprets it as something that is entertaining to others and thus welcomed. The “don’t do that” phrase is subdued by the amusement as body language and tone of voice out weigh words by far. Hence instead of disciplining the child and training it in the way it should go, we end up encouraging behaviour that should be nipped in the bud. Then we complain when the child gets out of hand when he/she reaches the teenage stage.
Sadly many social issues are not far different… We encourage abusers by telling the victims to change their behaviours. Abusers hence get the message that what they are doing is right – and all what happens is the fault of the victims. We blame the victims of rape that their dress code or their mannerism was wrong… Is that why we see so many young kids being molested – because of their conduct or lack of clothing? So many posts go around on FB telling girls NOT to upload their pictures on social media because some sick guys out there are editing pictures and affixing their faces on semi nude or nude bodies.
After all don’t work places or educational institutions use photos of participants at celebrations or functions and post it for promotion? Don’t people take photos at functions – weddings, birthday parties etc etc and post them on FB or at the least have wedding albums? If someone really wanted to misuse pictures – their minds are so twisted – they will somehow or the other. They can take these pictures – even printed ones and edit it as converting to soft copies is a piece of cake in this day and age of modern technology being readily available. How many people take photos of strangers on the road – either while they are capturing a place of interest or of someone known to them or even simply of a stranger with good intention or even with the wrong motives? How often are we aware of when we are captured in someone else’s photo – even on their phones – in any of the above scenarios?
The only option then for a girl to AVOID all of the above is to stay at home with a sack over themselves and hide – as there are also CCTV and hidden cameras around too. Look at the nonsense messages we are spreading by raising awareness to tell GIRLS – the “victims” to stop living life and to hide so that they don’t get caught to ABUSERS. Ya way to go society – punish the girls so that they don’t get trapped to sick minded people. And the people who are spreading these messages, are they changing their lives? No, they continue to enjoy uploading pictures and sharing it as after all they are guys and nude images of guys are ACCEPTABLE in society right? Double standards?
First of all, if only society would stop assuming and judging and wagging their tails when they see a not so appropriate photo of someone, would these abusers get away with what they are doing? They get a kick out of it as there are people who SUPPORT them.
As believers what is our response to all this? God tells us to stand up for the oppressed – He doesn’t ask us to oppress them further… He asks us to stand up for righteousness and for justice. Jesus makes it clear to seek FIRST His Kingdom and HIS RIGHTEOUSNESS. If we aren’t in a position to do so, let’s at least refrain from oppressing people further and murdering them emotionally. Intercessory prayer is always a must in these situations. However, often we hide with this religious cover and make excuses that that’s all we can do.
As believers we need to stop our judgmental approach and remember the grace that Jesus has extended to us. One thing we can do is to not judge someone let alone spread rumours without knowing facts. Even if someone has chosen to take such pictures that’s their life and they are accountable to God in what they do. Secondly we need to understand sexuality in the light of how God has created us… We have twisted sexuality so much from the pure beautiful way of creation… God created us naked.. It was sin that brought clothing into the picture – in fact it was Adam and Eve’s fig leaves that made God give them clothing. If we saw nakedness in this light – it won’t be distorted. Look at the aboriginal / tribal communities that are still half naked.. They are accustomed to it and thus it’s not a big deal anymore. What about doctors who see the physical bodies – especially gynaecologists? If we are walking in the Spirit, then one of the attributes of the fruit of the Spirit is self control. These are related biblical concepts for us to bear in mind.
Again I looked and saw all the oppression that was taking place under the sun: I saw the tears of the oppressed– and they have no comforter; power was on the side of their oppressors– and they have no comforter – Ecclesiastes 4:1
- Are we giving more power to the side of the oppressors?
- Are we comforting the oppressed or are we driving them further into oppression with our so called “protective measures”?
If we can’t stand up against oppression let us not feed into it by giving the abusers an excuse to shift blame. When we feed into it, we become a part of the sin too…So seek God’s wisdom in everything you do – even if it’s sharing a post on FB.
God speaks through Isaiah on TRUE FASTING:
Then you will call, and the LORD will answer; you will cry for help, and he will say: Here am I. “If you do away with the yoke of oppression, with the pointing finger and malicious talk, and if you spend yourselves in behalf of the hungry and satisfy the needs of the oppressed, then your light will rise in the darkness, and your night will become like the noonday. The LORD will guide you always; he will satisfy your needs in a sun-scorched land and will strengthen your frame – Isaiah 58:9-11
And for the “girls” out there who are being “warned” to take precautionary measures… God sees our hearts and knows what we are doing. If we are being led by the Spirit then we will know what God wants us to do and what He doesn’t want us to do. We do not fear mere mortal man and also what other people think. If the abusers do edit the photos and spread it and those who look at it want to point malicious fingers and judge – well God will for sure deal with them. That’s a fact. God will hold us accountable for our motives for our actions – that’s what makes it right or wrong. We can’t live in fear of what will happen as that is the opposite of faith as long as we aren’t testing God in it.
And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose. For those God foreknew he also predestined to be conformed to the likeness of his Son, that he might be the firstborn among many brothers. And those he predestined, he also called; those he called, he also justified; those he justified, he also glorified. What, then, shall we say in response to this? If God is for us, who can be against us? – Romans 8:28-31