There are some people with whom you can simply never get it right. If you take it, there is one accusation but on the other hand if you don’t take it, there is yet another accusation. If you stand, there is an issue but nonetheless if you sit, there is yet another issue anyway. CATCH 22? You can never win – it’s a lose, lose situation! Can you ever please these people? I don’t think so! The more you try, the more you hear things you really wouldn’t want to hear… It’s like throwing a pearl to the swine. They don’t know the value of it, so they trample it and walk away. They will excuse themselves as they didn’t mean it, the tone of voice was an accident…
Such people have a suspicious nature. Either they have been hurt badly that they can’t see anyone in a positive light, or they themselves are shrewd people and thus they see others as themselves. They know their own true nature and thus see everyone else likewise. So they snap at everyone and belittle everyone. Instead of looking inward, they claim innocence for their tone of voice.
“Actions speak louder than words” indeed. It has been found that words form around only 7% of communication. The remaining is non verbal communication which hinges on the tone of voice (38%) and body language (55%). Of course this is an average percentage and I’m sure it would vary person to person according to culture etc. However, it is obvious that words are a very small part of communication and we may think we get away when we lie, but the rest gives it away – unless of course we have mastered in acting.
Imagine looking through a pair of spectacles with unclean lenses! Your sight becomes partial as it is now blemished. However, the moment you clean them and then look through them, things become crystal clear. Having a suspicious nature is like looking at things through blemished lenses while having a pure heart is like looking at things with clarity. The more the suspicious we are, the more we shut people out… we can’t reach out so we lock them out.
The hearts and minds of those with a suspicious nature are far from being pure….
“To the pure, all things are pure,
but to those who are defiled and unbelieving nothing is pure; but even their mind and conscience are defile.
They profess to know God, but in works they deny Him… ” (Titus 1:15)
What are the state of your lenses today? Are they defiled or are they pure?
Do you profess to know God? What are your works like?
How do you see God? Do you see Him as shrewd or do you see Him as pure?
If defiled, what made it so? Please prayerfully sit at God’s Feet right now and ask God to reveal the baggage that you are carrying. Confess your sins to one another so that you may be healed.
Your heart condition is how you see God. You see a shrewd God, if your heart is crooked or ‘devious’ as the NKJV translates it. (Being suspicious is quite different from having a discerning spirit let alone having the gift of “word of knowledge”).
In his song of praise, David sings unto the LORD,
“To the pure, You show yourself pure, but to the crooked, You show Yourself shrewd” – 2 Samuel 22:27, Psalm 18:26
In fact, the crooked and the devious, cannot see God. Jesus clearly states,
“Blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see God” (Matthew 5:8).
God weighs the motives of our hearts… He sees the heart condition. We may be excellent actors and be applauded in the sight of man! Foolishness, mere foolishness as what benefit is that to us, to lose out on an intimate relationship with the true and living God who sincerely and unconditionally loves us?
“Now the purpose of the commandment is love from a PURE heart, from a good conscience and from sincere faith“
(1 Timothy 1:5).
It is not of any use “loving” with a suspicious heart let alone with a reluctant heart. God calls us to love from a PURE heart. Well that makes sense if you think about it! We can see God only if we are pure in heart… and seriously we can’t love in our own fleshly strength. It is only by God’s grace and His mercy and His love being poured into us and through us, can we sincerely love. Being pure in heart, is not only necessary for a believer but also beneficial…
“Truly God is good to Israel, to such as are pure in heart” (Psalm 73:1)
So, let’s join hands my dear beloved brother and sister and let’s
“Pursue righteousness, faith, love, peace with those who call on the Lord out of a pure heart” (2 Timothy 2:22).