“It would be nice if he would be ‘fit’ or even slim but not over-weight. And for that matter, I’m clarifying ‘fit’ as NOT who has ‘defined muscles’ and a ‘6 pack’ or whatever they call it.” The term has slipped my mind at this moment, but I’m sure you get what I’m trying to say here!!!”
Yes, I’m a ‘mature’ single… Yet I know I still am allowed to have ‘faith’ that God does have a partner for me in His way, in His time. And thus I have my ‘desires’ as to how he should be… The first line is one of the points on my wish list – and certainly isn’t priority. However, I did ponder on this for a while and wonder whether this was ‘discriminative’ and perhaps even ‘unfair’. THe more I thought about it, I reasoned this ‘criteria’ was a ‘symptom’ to tell me who the guy really is. (At this point, are you thinking I’m crazy???)
Well, how would you like your home to be kept all messy and in disorder? Ok, I do admit it does get like that time to time… However, isn’t frustrating when you can’t find something? Doesn’t it make you feel irritated when you walk into a home full of chaos especially when you are tired? Isn’t it welcoming and relaxing to see things maintained? I’m not talking about perfectionism either – because that makes a house a house, and not a home… ! How a house is kept can tell you a million of things about the person, right? Are they clean, are they hygienic, are they on their toes and perfectionistic, are they lacksaidical, are they selfish, are they the type of people who can’t be bothered about anyone but themselves – it’s about their comfort etc etc. And to come to the point…
“Don’t you know that you yourselves are God’s temple and that God’s Spirit lives in you?” (1 Corinthians 3:16)
How much more do we bear ‘fruit’ based on the way we maintain our bodies especially knowing that it is God’s temple? Ouch…
Being high maintenance or on the other side being totally negligent of our bodies says a lot. High maintenance (having to be primped all the time with makeup or having to ensure that the gym is on top priority of your list so that you can have the perfect body or ensuring your clothes are without a crease or without a single stain, always concerned about appearance and looking like million dollars) tends to reflect selfishness, centred on the “I”… It’s all about me first. They will be so wrapped up in themselves that they won’t have time (and perhaps the finances) to bother about the other… Hmmm… no, I would prefer to be single!
On the other hand, having a overly laidback attitude to the way you present yourself, the way you maintain your body and how you eat etc tends to portray a “I don’t care” attitude. Can one who doesn’t take care of himself take care of another? Hmm… I wouldn’t want a guy like that either!
(And interestingly as I searched the net – when I nearly reached the end of this post – for a suitable image, I stumbled on this webpage for which I’m including the link as it may be worth reading for further insights!! http://him.uk.msn.com/health-and-fitness/why-an-average-physique-is-best-for-men)
- So what does it mean to you to be God’s temple? What does it mean to you that you are the ROYAL PRIESTHOOD?
Would people be drawn to the Most High whose Spirit lives in you, based on the way you appear and present yourself? Are you presenting yourself unkempt and shaggy or are you dressing with confidence given that you are the son of the Living God? Well if you truly believed the Spirit lives in you, would you be living the way you currently are doing so? If you loved God would you treat your body the way you do?
We need to be more aware of how we dress, our diets, how we maintain our bodies in addition to be conscious of how we talk and how we behave. Would we be a good representative of God?
(For more on being a ‘representative’ see https://priyanthiv.wordpress.com/2013/03/06/cream-of-the-crop/)
Being God’s temple also calls us not to be unequally yoked together with unbelievers (2 Corinthians 6:14-16). This doesn’t mean separating yourself from socialising with unbelievers. Jesus clearly set the example to mingle with them even if it meant Him crossing cultural boundaries at much cost. Light and darkness can’t mix – when light steps in, darkness dispels. Likewise we can’t have God’s Word as the lamp unto our feet and the light unto our path when partnering with someone who doesn’t. Two can’t walk together unless agreed… And in terms of marriage consummation, how can the temple of the Living God “merge” with a body that worships idols?
- Likewise what does it mean to you that the other believers that God has placed on your path are ALSO God’s temple?
Just as much as your body is special because it was created in God’s Image and now that you do believe, you are God’s dwelling place, other believers are special on these same grounds too. So how are we treating them? Can we love them like we love ourselves? Can we do good to all? Can we share our burdens and our blessings and participate in their sufferings too?
“If anyone destroys God’s temple, God will destroy him; for God’s temple is sacred, and you are that temple“
(1 Corinthians 3:17).
Hmmm we can destroy someone by ridiculing them, bullying them, abusing them, labelling them, judging them, ostracising them etc. (This is QUITE different from speaking the truth in love with good motives). Let’s watch our tongues when we do interact with other believers and also bear in mind that they are too God’s temple – which is sacred.
Now, therefore, you are no longer strangers and foreigners, but fellow citizens with the saints and members of the household of God, having been built on the foundation of the apostles and prophets, Jesus Christ Himself being the chief cornerstone, in whom the whole building, being fitted together, grows into a holy temple in the Lord, in whom you also are being built together for a dwelling place of God in the Spirit. (Ephesians 2:19-22)