Invisible sparks were flying across the room… The chemistry between the two could not be concealed. Slowly but surely they worked themselves to start inching their way towards each other. The distance across a room never felt so far away before! When the two strangers finally got around to communicating, they found they connected on all levels – not just physical but also spiritual, intellectual, emotional and even humour. What a bonus, what a fairy tale! (Does this really happen? hehehhe… it has known to happen so rest assured and have faith if you are single!) Sparks can be productive if ignited in a careful and contained manner. Yet, it can cause much disruption otherwise.
If the wiring in a plug is connected at the wrong places there will be much damage which can vary from a local burn to the whole place being blown down. The earth, the neutral and the live wires need to be placed where they belong – the live and neutral wires need the earth wire as the earth protects against insulation failure. On the other hand, if the current is high, the fuse will blow before the circuit gets damaged – only if correctly wired. However if not, the triggered sparks can soon cause an electric shock leading to being electrocuted – rather fatal! However, when the connections are right, electricity will flow generating power with a productive output. The wiring of a plug makes a great analogy for what Christian relationships should be like…
According to the Bible, a man needs a comparable helper… they complement one another. A couple can be compared to the live and neutral wires that work alongside each other to aid the circuit. However they need to be connected to the earth wire – just like the male and female need to be connected to God. We as humans are sinful and full of weaknesses and it’s simple, we need God. Jesus came for us sinners. By His grace and His mercy we are embraced as saints. Jesus tells us to forgive one another as God forgives us… In fact, we cannot receive forgiveness from God if we don’t forgive each other. This is crucial with any relationship.
A marriage let alone a courting relationship survive, with such forgiveness and can only be accomplished if rightly connected with God. There will be sparks of flames that are not of passion but of anger… However the more one gets rooted in God, the fruit of the Holy Spirit is evident in an increasing manner. The anger will not disappear (there is righteous anger too), but rather the self-control that is one of the attributes of the fruit of the Spirit will learn how to manage the anger. Our connection to God provides the insulation necessary!
Sparks fly, the physical attraction is strong and the chemistry simply sizzles… Well, these are necessary ingredients for a couple contemplating a life-long commitment namely marriage. However these ingredients shouldn’t be mixed together until all the remaining ingredients for the recipe are ready. Pre-mature preparation leads to the wasting of ingredients as they spoil. The chemistry and physics experienced during the dating / courting period need to be controlled – once again by the power of the Holy Spirit. Fire out of the fireplace burns things down. (Since we have discussed chemistry and physics, yes, I will leave you to do the Math here!) Hmm… is this why the wise Solomon advises us, “Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires” (2:7, 3:5, 814)?
How can two who do not agree walk with each other (Amos 3:3)? It’s simple – a believer cannot form a lasting relationship with a non-believer! (I’m using the term believer here because not all who claim to be Christians truly believe.) An unequally yoked couple then lack the earth wire that protects when insulation failure occurs – which is bound to happen as fact is we are in our sinful nature. The wrong connection – wires wrongly joined – will definitely have its ill consequences – damages and even being burnt down. How can relationships survive when both are sinful and lack the required insulation?
On the other hand, the power flows when the three wires are in place. The importance of relationship with God in the centre is inevitable: “Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken” – Ecclesiastes 4:12
The power of being a couple – two can defend themselves…
However, a couple with God in the centre is like a cord of 3 strands – not quickly broken!