We are living in a world of crime and wars. Murder cases are splashed across the news. How do people kill another human being? We just don’t understand – it’s not something we could even dream of doing. But, what is murder? When we think of the word ‘murder’, we think of the physical body being put to death. Human beings consist of body (the flesh), soul (mind, emotions and will) and spirit. But, when we crush someone’s spirit or when we assassinate their character, what is THAT act called? Would it be apt to categorise those under ‘murder’ too?
Bullying is a very common act – unfortunately in both adults and kids alike. Their victims could be those that are weaker than them or quite the opposite, those who they feel intimidated by or jealous of. In a shame oriented society, shaming another is the way of social control. Sarcastic humour is employed. Bullying and sarcastic humour crushes someone’s spirit… it murders their emotional well being. Usually the people who do revert to sarcastic humour or bullying are those who are insecure or have a low self esteem. Character assassination is when you wrongly murder someone’s reputation – even through humour – such that the person’s careers or even ministry opportunities are threatened. Satan would be thrilled to employ such tactics to hinder God’s work. (On the other hand, the Bible tells us to “restore gently the one who is caught in sin” -Galatians 6:1. In fact, the procedure goes one step further where the church leadership is concerned: when those who direct the affairs of the church sin “are to be rebuked publicly, so that the others may take warning” – 1 Timothy 5:17.)
However, many resort to spiritualisation to cover up for their acts – “if God intended it, no one can stop it”. Yes, God is indeed sovereign and can turn it all for good. But we are also accountable to God for our actions. A lot of the times we assume; rather than clearing the air with the person in question (why did they say it, in what context etc) we jump the gun and take justice in our own hands. After all, Jesus tells us as step ONE, “If your brother sins against you go and show him his fault, just between the two of you” (Matt 18:1). Many a times when we jump the gun, we end up murdering the other person as we don’t know the true story. We need to remember “man sees the appearance but God sees the heart” (1 Samuel 15:24).
Are you one who bullies or employs sarcastic humour that hurts others? Is this fitting with God’s Word? What do you think is causing you to behave in such a manner?
Do you shy away from confrontations? How do you then deal with your anger or hurts? Does that make you resort to ‘murdering’ the other person, unintentionally perhaps?
Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable – if anything is excellent or praiseworthy – think about such things. (Phillipians 4:8)